A Journey from Shame to Healing by Tina Malaty

God’s heart is not to shame us, but to lovingly draw us into the light.

Accountability, in His eyes, is not about punishment—it’s about healing.

It’s about saying, “Yes, I’ve fallen short,” and hearing Him respond,

“Come, let Me restore you.”

1 John 1:9 – “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”Proverbs 3:11–12 – “My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline... because the Lord disciplines those He loves.”

Whether we’ve been hurt or have caused hurt, God invites us to take responsibility—not to be crushed, but to be made whole.

Forgiveness: A Pathway to Freedom

Forgiveness is not forgetting. It’s not saying what happened was acceptable. It’s saying, “I will not let this pain define me.”For those who’ve been wounded, forgiveness is a gift you give yourself—a release from the chains of bitterness.

For those who’ve caused harm, forgiveness is the first step toward redemption.

Colossians 3:13 – “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”Luke 6:36–37 – “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful... Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”

Forgiveness is not weakness—it’s courage. It’s choosing love over vengeance, healing over hatred.

True Change: Becoming New in Christ

No one is beyond hope. No story is too broken. True change doesn’t come from trying harder—it comes from surrendering to the One who makes all things new.

Ezekiel 36:26 – “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you.”2 Corinthians 5:17 – “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

If you’ve hurt others, you are not condemned—you are called. Called to repent, to grow, to become someone who brings healing instead of harm.And if you’ve been hurt, you are not forgotten—you are cherished. God sees you. He weeps with you. And He is fighting for your restoration.

When Abuse Breaks the Bond

Abuse is never God’s will. It breaks trust, distorts love, and wounds the soul. Whether emotional, physical, spiritual, or verbal—God stands with the oppressed.

Psalm 34:18 – “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”Isaiah 61:1 – “He has sent Me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives.”

If you’ve been abused, know this: God does not ask you to stay in harm’s way. He calls you to safety, to healing, to dignity.And if you’ve been the one who inflicted harm, know this: God does not discard you. He calls you to deep, honest change.

Restoration: A Journey of Grace

Restoration is not about pretending the pain never happened—it’s about letting God write a new chapter.For some, that may mean reconciliation. For others, it may mean healing from afar. But in all cases, it means walking with Jesus toward wholeness.

Joel 2:25 – “I will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten.”James 5:16 – “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.”

Restoration is possible—but it must be rooted in truth, humility, and love. It cannot be rushed or forced. It is a sacred process, guided by the Spirit.

A Loving Call to All

To the wounded: You are not alone. You are not to blame. You are worthy of love, safety, and healing. God sees you, and He is near.To the oppressor: You are not beyond redemption. You are not defined by your worst moment. But you must choose change. God is ready to transform your heart—if you let Him.To all of us: Let us be people of light.

People who take responsibility.

People who forgive.

People who heal.

People who grow.Let us walk in the way of Jesus—full of grace and truth.

A Final Whisper to the Soul

You are loved.

You are called.

And with God—

all things can be made new. 🌿