
There is a particular kind of silence that only comes after abandonment.
Not the peaceful kind—but the hollow one.
The kind that echoes with unanswered questions, replayed conversations, and the ache of realizing that the people you trusted most chose distance when you needed presence.
I did not lose strangers. I lost people I loved. People whose voices once filled my days, whose opinions shaped my thoughts, whose absence left a weight heavier than their presence ever did.
And yet—it was in that very isolation that something unexpected happened.
When the voices left, another Voice remained.
“Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10
Before the abandonment, my mind was crowded. Crowded with advice, expectations, distortions, half-truths, and the constant hum of what others thought I should be. Even love—when mixed with noise—can drown out truth.
But solitude has a way of stripping life down to what is essential. And when there was no one left to explain myself to, defend myself to, or perform for—Jesus spoke.
Not loudly. Not forcefully. But clearly.
“My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.” — John 10:27
I did not hear Him more clearly because I became better. I heard Him because everything else finally fell silent.
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Abandoned—But Not Forsaken
Being left by people can make you question your worth. It whispers lies:
"You were too much."
"You weren’t enough."
"You failed."
But Jesus does not speak in accusation—He speaks in truth.
“When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take care of me.” — Psalm 27:10
When human love reached its limit, divine love stepped in without hesitation. Not to replace people—but to reveal something deeper: that my identity was never meant to be sustained by human approval.
Jesus met me where no one else stayed. He sat with me in the unanswered prayers. He listened when I cried without words.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18
I was crushed—but I was not alone.
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The Gift Hidden Inside the Wound
Isolation hurts. But it also clarifies.
Without the noise of many voices consuming my mind, I began to recognize which thoughts were not mine—and which were not His. I learned the difference between conviction and condemnation. Between truth and emotional manipulation.
“You will hear a voice behind you saying, ‘This is the way; walk in it.’” — Isaiah 30:21
I don’t believe I would have recognized that voice if I had remained surrounded by people who unknowingly drowned it out.
Some relationships did not end because I was unlovable. They ended because God was creating space
Space for healing. Space for clarity. Space for a voice that does not compete.
Abandonment did not leave me alone. It became the very thing that led me into belonging. Belonging to the One Who calls me by name.
"What the devil meant for evil, God meant for good" Isaiah 43:1
In abandonment, I found love. In solitude, I found acceptance. Because..
As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good.
Genesis 50:20
And Gods Word never returns void.
